Crap

Well crap.

A few things

No means no. Always. Stop also means stop. Every single time.

Consenting to kissing someone does not mean consenting to anything else. If they say stop you damn well better stop.

Asexual people are asexual for a reason. They aren't a challenge. When you tell someone you don't really fancy having a zucchini stuck up your rectum, you don't want to be told that you might like it if you tried it. Same rules apply to someone who doesn't ever want to have sex. They know their own mind and it's really not up to you to change it.

If someone allows you into their bed do not take liberties when you think they are asleep.

And finally, if you pick out the most emotionally vulnerable people in a group to predate, do not expect to get away with it. We talk to each other, we notice things, and we are very capable of standing up for ourselves.

I can't explain the reasons for this right now. I'm feeling angry, and betrayed, and confused and all manner of other things I don't have words for.